Sometimes following your own heart means breaking someone else's.

A failed relationship isn't the end of your story; it's just the end of a chapter. your happy ending is still on the way. - cory copeland

After eight months of trying to figure out if we would work out and then finally deciding to take that official leap, the boy and I called it quits two weeks ago.  I've been mute on the entire situation for the sake of everyone involved but as my other (worse?) half said here, I can't not write about it.  I know many Christian girls have probably found themselves in this same situation and I hope this helps somewhat.

This is incredibly important to me.  I thought it wasn't.. or I tried to pretend that it wasn't, at least.  I've heard the verse about being "unequally yoked" so many times throughout my life that it's become a cliche but the older I get, the more I realize how accurate it is.  If God is the center of your life, it's impossible to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't share that belief.

I feel like so many people in my life, especially girls, are sacrificing something incredibly important simply for the sake of being in a relationship.  Whatever it is - faith, desire for marriage, lifestyle, sexuality, WHATEVER, don't compromise what's in your heart for the sake of winning someone else's.  Relationships are about give/take on both ends but there's only so much you can give before you lose yourself and ultimately lose your relationship, anyway.

This isn't a bash the boy blog in the least bit.  He is such an incredible person and we're working on continuing being friends.  To throw another cliche in there, I sincerely wish nothing but the best for him.  We simply weren't meant to be more than friends because of our faith differences.  It's something we knew could be a problem which is why we spent so long weighing the odds.  I liked him so much that I thought I could eventually get over the fact that something as major as faith would be missing from our relationship.  I remember sitting in church two weeks ago and thinking how I'd never get to share that with him.  That's not something I want in a significant other.  Yes, it's important that we can go out together and have a great time and share the same passions, such as music.  But it's also important that we pray together.  I want God to be the center of any relationship I have.

So, here I am... single again.  I feel like I say that phrase quite a bit and you know what?  That's okay.  So many people give up after so many failed relationships but I'm such a Charlotte York at heart.  This is just the end of one chapter.